Man Never Measures Up

Have you been hurt by someone who claims to be a Christian? Do you wonder why God allows bad things to happen? Do you question if He exists based on these things?

If you’re human, your answer is probably a resounding YES!

I have a few friends, from all walks of life, who have decided that they want nothing to do with God or deny His existence based on hurts perpetrated by those who claim to know Him.  And while my heart aches for the hurt they’ve endured, I’m deeply saddened by the joy they miss out on. 

I’m no theologian, nor do I have the space here to dive into a deep philosophical discussion.  What I can do is present my experience and belief and let you be the judge. 

Humans are flawed. There is not one who is perfect, except Jesus, when He spent time on Earth as a human. Everyone else? Mistake ridden, evil hearted, self-serving, flawed people.  The only ones who have managed to take a step in a better direction are those who have a relationship with God. And even then, they are full of miscalculation, unintended slights, and general obliviousness to others’ feelings. For those people, they’ve never intended to hurt others, but it still happens. 

Well, why does God allow it? Good question. Of course, the only logical answer is that if you want all that to stop, you just have to end humanity.  Completely.  Harsh.

I’ve heard, “Well, He could just stop them from doing that.” True. But then that takes away their choice, their free will. If He takes away theirs, then it takes away yours by default. Is that really what you want?

God desires us to get to know Him, really get to know Him, by choice. What kind of relationship is it if you’re there because you have to be? How much sweeter is it, when you’re there because you want to be? Once you get introduced to Him, He wants you to make decisions based on your relationship with Him.  I would no sooner buy a car without my husband’s input than I would take a job without God’s. He desires a real relationship where He is talked with (not to), where He is consulted for decisions, and where He gets to spend time with you.  But it is your decision.  Always.  He will not brow beat you.  He will not take away your free choice to decide on Him.

On the other hand, the humans that you measure God by constantly fail.  Man will never measure up. So if you are turning your back on God because of man, your eyes are on the wrong measuring stick. 

It’s hard to live in a world where people run rampant over others and their feelings, but there is One who rules over all of it. If you let Him, He can rule over your heart.  He can help you find compassion, faith, peace, and true joy.  Better than that, He can help you grow in them.  You may find some pale, anemic form of those things without Him.   With Him, though, you can grow it tenfold!

That, my friends, should be the goal.  Grow compassion.  Grow faith.  Grow peace.  Grow joy.  Become less like the self-serving people that offend and hurt.  Become more like God,  abounding in patience and kindness.  Let God guide you into a life filled with peace and joy and understand that it IS guidance and not control. 

He isn’t doing mass manipulation. 

He’s doing individual improvement. 

So the person you’ve allowed to be the measuring stick is still in their own improvement plan. That’s assuming they’re friends with Him. Don’t let the ones who don’t measure up (as in everyone, everywhere) stop you from claiming the joy that He brings when you open up to Him. 

Everything is between you and Him. Make Him your confidant.  He’s the only one who measures up.

If you don’t know Him as your friend, start now! Pray this prayer:

Lord, thank You for caring about me.  Thank You for coming to earth, dying on the cross, raising to life, and giving me hope and a future.  Please forgive me of my sins and make me new by becoming the Lord of my heart.  I invite You to lead me each day to get to know You better.  Thank You for saving me. I pray this in the name of Jesus.  Amen.

 

Between Hope and Defeat

I literally sat between hope and defeat

It was the most amazing real life example to me of what I was watching on the big screen.

A friend and I had decided to go see Jesus Revolution and there weren’t many seats left. We opted for seats in between already selected ones, which put me next to a complete stranger.  The stranger was on my left, while my friend sat on my right.

It seemed as soon as the movie started, the stranger was unhappy.  He grumbled and huffed through the first half of the movie at every scene that didn’t agree with his viewpoint. I could hear him talking to the characters.  “Just go get more drugs,” he said snidely. “Well, you deserve that,” he said another time.  “Stupid” was heard repeatedly. He seemed so angry. The first half of the movie was spent listening to his ranting on my left side.

Meanwhile, my friend on my right was vocal with his “amen” and “that’s right”.  I started to get vocal as well, but mostly because the words and spirit coming at my left was bringing it out in me.  I needed to counteract all that negative oppression.

I couldn’t help but think how much of the point the stranger was missing. The movie was meant to drive home the point that we ALL are looking to fill a void.  And that void will only be filled with one thing. Like it or not, the journeys to discovering our need for Jesus are all varied, and no one person can tell anyone else what it’s supposed to look like on that journey. We have a better idea of what it should look like after we find Jesus than what it should look like before finding Him. But even that is unique to each person and can’t be cookie-cut into uniformity.

All I could hear out of the stranger on my left was condemnation and minimalization.  Had he no clue that sin is sin? That there is no such thing as degrees? Has he not heard “for we all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23)? Did he never once question whether he might be the reason someone didn’t find God?  We are not to be a stumbling block (2 Cor 6:3). I wonder if he didn’t see himself in the elders of the church that were portrayed in the movie.  So sure they are right and that “those people” aren’t welcome, their attendance was dwindling, and the church was on the brink of failure.  This stranger on my left only offered defeat to the defeated and I felt sorry for him, thinking he didn’t have any idea of who Jesus really is and what the character of God is really like.

And then on my right was my friend, a ray of hope. As he watched the scenes unfold, he was offering encouragement and agreement with those who were trying to reach the lost in the movie.  He obviously felt a hope for those portrayed as hopeless, and his vocalization of it was a soothing balm compared to the contrary spirit on my other side.  I have no doubt that those who struggle would find comfort in my friend’s hopeful demeanor.  I know he gets it when it comes to the lost.  They aren’t all pretty.  They aren’t all put together.  They aren’t all perfect.  But Jesus loves them the same way as He loves my friend.  And God’s grace is just as real to him as it is to those poor souls portrayed in the film.  He points the hopeless to our Great Hope.

To sit in the middle of these two warring spirits was odd. The stranger on my left, so insistent that only the good belong.  My friend on the right, just as insistent (or rather, understanding) that there is no one good enough. It was like some cartoon of the angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other. And it makes me wonder.  How many Christians do I know who side with the stranger? How many do I know who side with my friend? What will it take to convert the stranger, and others like him, to Jesus’s side? Why do they think Jesus primarily did His ministry outside of the synagogue? Are they content to play the role of Pharisee?

Around halfway through the movie, the stranger on my left got up and made his way out of the movie. To say the tension dropped would be an understatement. It was like going from a blizzard to a warm, sunny day in 30 seconds. And I was able to enjoy the rest of the movie.

Can I just encourage you?

If you feel like “those people” (whoever that might be to you) don’t belong in the house of God, or don’t deserve a chance to meet Him, find it in the Bible for me where Jesus himself set that standard. Knowing He traveled with women (ack!), fishermen (groan), tax collectors and former prostitutes (faint), in order to reach the ones that the Pharisees never could, should open your eyes to God’s grace. Knowing you don’t deserve that grace any more than they do because there are no degrees to sin should open your eyes to God’s mercy. In God’s eyes, there are none of “those” people. Or, better yet, there are only “those” people, and it includes you and me.

And if looking for your standard in Jesus’s actions doesn’t work out for you, then pray. Pray the Lord show you His grace. Pray He covers you with mercy. Pray He opens your eyes and your heart to receive understanding.

Because we are all ‘those” people.

Not Just the Thief of Joy

I’ve heard it several times: comparison is the thief of joy. But there’s another lesson in there.

Imagine five chairs. In those five chairs sit five people. Each person comes from a different walk of life. Each person comes from their own point of pain.

In chair number one sits A, a woman raised by a single mother, with no real father figure in the picture. She’s never experienced a daddy/daughter dance, no father to scare the bad boys away, no one to walk her down the aisle. All of these missed experiences and her personality have led her to make choices that someone with a father would never have made.

In the second chair sits B. He had a father present who he wished had disappeared like A’s dad. His own dad was an abusive alcoholic who forgot what pain he inflicted the night before. His personality and experiences led him to make choices most people with good parents would never have made.

In the third chair sits C. She had wonderful parents who loved her, cared for her, and saw to her every need. But they don’t know that her uncle molested her when she was a child. They don’t know that the experience along with her personality have weighed on her and caused her to withdraw.

In the fourth chair sits D. He has wonderful parents who loved him, cared for him, and saw to his every need. But he just lost his younger brother to cancer. They don’t understand that losing his brother along with changes to his personality have weighed on him and caused him to withdraw.

In the last chair sits E. She had wonderful parents, hasn’t lost any loved ones, is married to a wonderful man, has her own beautiful children. But she just lost her job due to downsizing. She is loud, boisterous, and annoying and no one knows she’s like that to hide her fear.

Each one of these chairs holds a person with pain. The human condition is to look at each of those chairs and compare stories to see who to feel sorry for. In your mind, there’s one that stands out as the most sorrowful and one that stands out as a whiner. Each person reading this will find the one that they connect to the most (because that’s what we do, typically. We look for common ground.) And some will even create a scale of hurt from least to greatest.

The problem is that we are so focused on the chair (their pain) that we forget to see the people. Comparison isn’t just the thief of joy, it’s also the thief of compassion.

Jesus gave us two commands: love God, love people. When we look at Jesus’ ministry, we see that while He acknowledged their situation, He always spoke to the person’s heart. We need to be careful that in following Jesus and His commands, we don’t become blinded to the hearts because of the situation.

It’s too easy to look at one and say “THAT’S what you’re hurt by?!” Because we’ve experienced something we think is “worse” or “more devastating” we pshaw the wounded soul in front of us.

Pain is pain the same way sin is sin. As in, there are no degrees or levels. A’s pain is as valid as E’s pain. B’s pain is as valid as D’s pain. C’s pain is as valid as A’s pain. Each one of those people, with their own strengths and weaknesses, is dealing with experiences that truly caused them pain. Who am I to say their pain is inconsequential? Who do I think I am to minimalize or marginalize their pain because it doesn’t match up to my version of pain?

As a Christ follower I cannot do that. If I am to love God and love people, I have to let go of comparison. I certainly do not want it to steal my joy. But more than that, I abhor the thought of comparison stealing my compassion. We live in a broken world, ruled by comparison. But His ways are not our ways and we need to be lining up with Him. If we don’t, we will lose the wounded souls before us, in their individual chairs of pain.

What are shoes?

What are shoes?

Psalm 68:19
Blessed be the Lord, who daily loadeth us with benefits, even the God of our salvation. Selah.

I woke up on Saturday, October 19th, ready to cry at the drop of a hat.

Maybe it was the stress of my life. Maybe I was just emotional. Who knows? But I was overwhelmed.

Still, it was Jesus Burger day and I was excited to share the Club 3D cards with our Jesus Burger Friends. Jesus Burger is a homeless outreach in our city. Cards from our kids church group, 1st through 6th grade, had been added to the hygiene bags that I go to hand out. They were so precious and I had prayed for the people to be blessed by the simple words of children.

I made it there just as the devotion was getting going, and the leader was saying that you couldn’t care where the people came from, what they looked like, how they talked. That none of that mattered because we were there to love them in the way that Jesus did. Now, I was already emotional, but I felt my heart just shredding at those words. I kept seeing those I had come in contact with in the past and my heart broke for all of them, one by one. Friends, do not pray “break my heart for what breaks Yours” unless you are prepared for the grief. I hurt the whole day. And while only a couple of hours was spent at Jesus Burger, the impact lasted ALL day. A week later and I was still raw. I can still, today, feel the shards of grief that are stuck like slivers in my heart.

Today Mr. Monte Wike spoke of the verse above in Psalms, how God daily loads us with benefits. But it’s like the manna from heaven for the Israelites. It is enough for the day, and yet renews each morning. All I could think was that I didn’t understand my emotions and that I didn’t even know what I needed and here’s Mr. Monte telling us that God gives us what we need-daily. Which is . . . Well, just simple minded, really. Of course God knows what I need, and daily – and it doesn’t matter if I know or not, He knows what I need.

I left the devotion thanking God that He takes care of my simple minded self and went to hand out hygiene bags. While handing out the bags, a lady approached. She is a regular there. Usually she comes with a friend, but today, she was alone. Someone asked about her friend who always comes with her and she said she had committed suicide. That was a stab through my heart.

A little bit after that a man came up and I cringed, spiritually, from him. I didn’t understand my reaction, so I pushed myself to talk to him. He was pleasant enough. But then the women started coming and it became very evident that he was their pimp. He, and his friend, avoided going anywhere near the pulpit and the singing/preaching. My spirit was angry. My heart hurt. And I was silenced by God.

A woman came up. She was wearing shoes that were 3 sizes too big. She asked for 8.5 sized shoes. There were none. My heart broke again. Jesus said “give her yours“. I argued. I didn’t have a spare set in my car. I have to go to work. I can’t go barefoot. “Give her yours“. And what am I supposed to do? “Give her yours“. I discreetly took my shoes off and said “hey, see if these will fit”. She was so excited. She tried them on. Next thing I know, she has them off, handed to a man, and is trying on another pair from . . . where? And she’s saying how God is so good as she’s walking away with the last pair on and my pair dangling from the hand of the man with her.

What the . . . But I can’t be mad. I just want to cry.

Because I don’t have it in me to be mad.

Because Jesus gave them away, not me.

Because my heart hurts.

Because God loads us daily with benefits.

Because another soul took her own life and what are shoes compared to that?

Because there are women slaved to prostitute, and what are shoes compared to that?

Because most of these I meet at Jesus Burger have no home, no washing machine, no electricity, no running water, no transportation.

And what are shoes, compared to that?

Changing God’s Mind

Changing God’s Mind

I have a question that I have been asking God for . . . oh, about 18 years now. I started asking the question when life seemed incredibly, ridiculously hard. Part of me wondered, had I brought this on myself? Part of me railed at God for not moving me out of the trials. Part of me blamed others for making my life harder.

So I asked Him. Is there a difference, Lord, between Your will and Your Perfect Will? For 18 years that question has popped up repeatedly. What have I done wrong, God? Where are You? Why are things so difficult? I’m doing what you asked. I’m attending church, I’m reading the Word, I’m praying. But, good grief, why? Why all this strife? Why all this misery? What if I had not followed my heart and chose to stop to listen to You? But what about Your influence in the path that I was on?

Dear Reader, let me tell you a story . . .

I was born originally into a house of alcoholism, abuse and neglect. These are not stories that I heard of my upbringing; these are the memories I have of my childhood. At the age of 6 I was rescued. An aunt and uncle figured out the problem and I went to live with them. All of that is a story in itself. But, escape I did, and went to live with the aunt and uncle. From now on I will refer to them as Mom and Dad.

I lived with Mom and Dad from the age of 6 to the age of 12. At the age of 12, Dad decided to leave us, so I lived with Mom until the age of 25 (basically. I mean, I had that temporary stint out on my own, but you know . . .) Anyway, all of that was angst to me until I broke free of it at 19. It took me a while. I was ungrateful, angry, resentful, and took “poor, pitiful me” to a whole other level. But God got my attention, and I started making necessary changes in my thought processes. That was when I started to become friends with God. And He and I were pals. I still made mistakes. Show me a 19 year old that doesn’t! But I was learning and leaning. I was taking in what I could. It was rough and bumpy and filled with heartache, but I knew God had my back, I knew He loved me and would never leave me.

At 24 I met a man. He is currently my husband, but when I first met him, I was not impressed. He was everything I wasn’t looking for, I was sure of it. While I had grown up in a strict household and attended a very strict church, he seemed to have not had any of that. That was all just looks, on the surface, though. As I got to know him -mostly because he kept popping up in front of me, sometimes through no fault of his own- I realized that his heart was beautiful. And I fell for the heart. I didn’t know what it meant back then but looking back now I see that we were unequally yoked. While his core principles were the same and he loved God, we were still on different playing fields. At the dumb age of 24, I just believed that it gave us depth. I could not have been more wrong. What we have now because of it, is depth. What it gave us back then was heartache.

But God had a hand in it all. I just didn’t know that until MUCH later. To hear my husband say “but I prayed for you. I prayed that God would send me someone who would love me the way I needed to be loved,” actually broke my heart. God set me on this path. He directed my steps. Yes, I was foolish and made mistakes. Yes, I brought a lot of misery on myself. But it was also already orchestrated and set in motion.

He has his own story to tell and maybe one day he will let me tell it. But for now we’ll leave it at the very basic explanation that he had trust issues. Rightfully so, I might add. But still . . . I had to account for every second I wasn’t in his presence. This was before cell phones, you youngsters, so imagine having to tell someone your whereabouts every five minutes but you have lost your phone and no one around you has one either, except that ancient land line. Yeah. Deserted island and no communication but tell me where you are! It stressed me out so much while we were engaged that I broke it off. But when he apologized, and told me that he was wrong, and that he loved me, I believed it. I knew it was true! I just didn’t realize that it wasn’t fixed. And I fell for this man like a ton of bricks, y’all. There was no one else for me. There is no one else for me. We were engaged a year, then got married in 1995. Even with the break up and reconciliation, I fought his constant insecurity and the ever present demand of my time accounting for the next 5 years. At year 3, I started really getting tired of it. I was not a toddler, I was married. He was supposed to be a partner not a jailer. Had there been any indication of abuse in his nature, I would have taken off. However, there was no such bone in his body. Only insecurity and low self-esteem. So I tolerated it. And I was so in love and afraid of confrontation that I was his doormat. Whatever he wanted to accuse me of, it was fine because it wasn’t true. But then I started making poor choices. I was staying out later after work. I was taking my time coming home because I knew it drove him crazy. I would leave the house and not say where I was going. And we would go sometimes as much as a week without talking to each other. None of these were helping my marriage. But I was depressed, and frustrated and stuck between a rock of his insecurity and a hard place of my own making. At year 7 (5 years married), I snapped. I wasn’t doing it anymore. I loved him. I had two beautiful boys by him. But I was not a doormat. Something had to change. I certainly had. Gone was the old me. The new me was scary. The new me was fierce. The new me was still going to fight, but not the way I used to. For Pete’s sake! You will know I’m mad, you will understand my point, and you will back the hell off! And he, bless his heart, had no idea what to do with new Pam. I didn’t know what to do with new Pam. I scared me. I just knew it was going to be different. I was beyond sick of it.

And then I started wondering. Had I brought this on myself? Did my failure to listen to something God might have been telling me lead me down this path? Could this heartache have been avoided by running the other way from the unequal yoking? After 18 years I am still learning the difference between God’s will and God’s Perfect Will. Part of my confusion comes from the vision I had on our third date. We had been talking. I was finally attentive because I had seen his heart, but at this point I was by no means swayed. My roommate came out to tell me something, I turned to her to listen, and when I turned back around, I had a vision. My oldest son sat on his knee. I immediately turned away again. No, God. Just no. I wasn’t ever having children. My upbringing had convinced me that you can never be sure of a partner. Or that, if you were sure of them when it was just the two of you, you couldn’t be sure once kids came along.

Needless to say, I found myself married with children and still struggling. Today, if you asked “Would I do it again?”, I don’t know what my answer would be. But since we can’t go back, I can ask myself, “What can I learn from this?” But, more often, I found myself asking “was this Your will?” And I still draw a blank sometimes. Yes, I had the vision. Does that mean that God was the orchestrator, or does that mean He took my choice and formed a plan? I’ve heard it said “well, God knows everything, even the choices we make, so He is in control of everything.” And I do believe He is in control. But I also know He gives us choices. I think He sets the choices before us, wanting us to make the one that serves Him best, but allowing us to have our desires. The only way we can be in His perfect will is if we are asking Him continuously, “what is Your choice?” And then following His guidance. Where I so often trip up is in the asking for His guidance. I’m sure that, had I asked, so many of the trials could have been avoided. Had I sought God’s guidance, I could have missed some of the misery entirely. But I think that some of it still would have been my lot, because we grow from the trials. At least, we should. If you are in the middle of difficulty and your eyes are turned toward God, you can’t help but learn. If you are facing sorrow, and you don’t ask why but ask what can I learn from this, you will definitely grow in the Lord. Are you facing a storm? In the middle of difficulty? Need an answer? Stop asking “why me?” Why you? Because everyone goes through trouble, and usually because we don’t line our choices up with God’s Word or His choices. Learn to pray “Your will be done” and to ask what His will is. Part of what we fail to understand, though, is that not only do we have freedom of choice, but so do all the other people in our sphere of influence. And just because you may be following God’s guidance, doesn’t mean that everyone else is. While we are certainly subject to the consequences of our own decisions, sometimes we are also subject to the consequences of the decisions of others. There is no limit to the ways our lives are buffeted by others. The important thing is to do your part of following after God and trust that He is looking out for you. You can do nothing about the other people and their choices, nor can you force them into doing things your way. The only thing you can do is take charge of your own emotions, and then give EVERYTHING up to God.

Can you change His mind? Sure. Read Exodus, Jeremiah, Amos, Jonah. I’m not sure it’s a true change of thought, though. It seems much more a father relenting than anything else. But the “effectual, fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” He listens to us and grants us our prayers when they line up with His true nature (love) and shine the light on His glory and Presence.

Would I change His mind, if I could go back and fervently pray for a pass? I think I possibly could have. But then it wouldn’t have been me loving my husband. It would have been someone else. And they may not have done as good a job as I have. And I wouldn’t have the two beautiful man-children that I have. Because I was NEVER having kids. I could have changed God’s mind. I’m sure of it. But even with the heartache and trauma, His plan is best. So I’ll just trust His will for my life. This isn’t the life I ordered, but it’s infinitely more beautiful and meaningful that what I picked.

The Big Picture

Hebrews 11:1 Now FAITH is being sure of what we hope for, being convinced of what we do not see.
Romans 8:28 And we know that all things WORK TOGETHER for good for those who love God, who are called according to his purpose,
1 Corinthians 2:9 But just as it is written, “Things that no eye has seen, or ear heard, or mind imagined, are the things God has PREPARED for those who love Him.”

Each one of us is a puzzle piece. We see our lives and know our borders. We may even see those that connect to us. And our situations are our whole view. But if you saw the bigger picture like God does, you would understand that struggle you are going through, or that valley that you are in. The only problem with this illustration is that it is a single facet of our existence and God sees the WHOLE thing. He sees the past mistakes and triumphs, the future decisions and paths, and the present predicament. Putting your trust in Jehovah-Jireh is more than believing He will provide. Jehovah-Jireh is most often interpreted as “The Lord will provide”. But the literal translation is The Lord sees as in “is seeing to it”. He is seeing the bigger picture. And our edges may have started to come apart or a piece been torn off, but we still fit into the bigger picture. We still create, when we are all connected, that image that God sees. It may change, that image, in His eyes because we have free will and may not sometimes fit in the spot He had chosen for us. It may have small gaps where we as an individual have let some hurt gouge a part of our piece in the image. But that image isn’t going away. And there isn’t anything you can do about it. Don’t want to be in the picture? You can’t NOT be. Don’t like the image you see? Then change it. You CAN choose to line up with God’s picture for your life. But you still won’t understand it all. Because you aren’t looking at the whole thing. But you can realize that your little segment is just that. Little. There is a larger design. There is a grander scheme. And understanding THAT will make the trials that much more bearable. Understanding that there is a puzzle master who is fitting the pieces together to make that image, should make you feel like nothing is pointless.

#believingisNOTseeing #DaringFaith #completetrust #highridgelv

If You Can’t Find the Humor . . .

. . . . just go home!

Seriously. You know when you have one of those days? The kind of day that is just ridiculous from beginning to end? The kind of day that makes you just want to go back home, crawl in bed, and start all over again tomorrow? No? Well, let me enlighten you. That way, when you think you are having a day like that, you can remember mine and realize yours isn’t so bad. Then again, maybe yours was worse. I’m sorry.

On a Tuesday I was at work. Not my usual work, but an extra job for this one week that were long days. My youngest son, A, calls me and says that his dog, Jake, got out. When Jake came back home his face was swollen on the left and he wouldn’t open his eye. My son was worried, naturally. But hey, I work 3 jobs to keep us afloat. I don’t have money for a dog. Still, this is Jake we are talking about. So I tell my son to keep an eye on him. There’s not much we can do, we’ll just see what it looks like in the morning and decide then. Now, I thought about the dog, don’t get me wrong. My husband, B, thought that Jake may have a concussion. We assumed that when he got out he probably had been kicked by a horse or cow and that we should just monitor him. Thinking about the dog and being willing to run him up to the vet are two different things, though. What money I have goes to more important things.

On Wednesday, the swelling in Jake’s face had gone down, though he still wouldn’t open the left eye. He whined a bit, but really, he seemed to be his usual snarly self. So I left it alone and said let’s wait a little more.

Then Thursday hit. My oldest son, Z, had a few extra dollars and I convinced him to put his car in the shop to see why it was having trouble starting. I had him take me to my extra job. When he got back home, he found his dad had gone to the ER. (My husband has lupus and this is just life.) Meanwhile, I had called the vet, who, of course, wanted to physically look at Jake and decide what needed to be done. So I called my oldest son and asked him to go get Jake and take him to the vet, not realizing my husband was still in the ER. I got a phone call around 3 p.m. from a stranger telling me that Z had flipped my car. I could hear him sobbing in the background. Now I’m frantic. I let my husband know what happened and tried to get to the scene. When I get there, he is standing upright, talking to my mom and laughing (albeit a little hysterically). I don’t care. I’m thrilled there is no blood.

Side note: Y’all! God had his hand on that boy and that accident! He wasn’t speeding, or texting. He DIDN’T slow down for the curve, and accelerated when the tire slipped onto the shoulder. But my tires were bad and one blew, then another. It sent him into a tailspin which then flipped my car. I drive up to the scene and the boy is standing there, the car is loaded on a tow truck, there isn’t any broken glass, or exceedingly visible damage other than a broken headlight. There have been so many things to be thankful for. I’m thankful that I thought the night before to take the loose 12×12 tiles out of my back seat. I’m thankful he had the accident in my car and not his. I’m thankful that the hand of God was on that boy. The car flipped, landed on the driver’s side, and skidded into a mound of dirt that had been recently delivered for the homeowners to work on their driveway-right where he wrecked. He tells of climbing out of the passenger side (vertically, mind you) and coming down off the car to see the driver’s side mirror holding the car up. A minor dent in the fender of the driver’s side front tire and some very small minimal scratches is all there is to show for it.

So, I come up on the scene and he is okay. I sent him straight to the family doctor, anyway. I work out things with the tow truck driver, believing my insurance is adequate, and speak to Officer Payne (nicest guy there ever was!). Once the major points are settled, I head back to work. Literally nothing that I can do at this point, so I just go back to work.

On the way back to work, I get a phone call from the vet. Jake has a ruptured eye and it will have to be removed. I’m not lying – I laughed. Then I said, “wow, I guess the hoof just caught his eye and nothing else?” The lady on the phone says “I don’t think Jake was kicked. He’s such a small dog that if he had been kicked, it would have broken bones in his face.”

“Well, how – ”

“The vet thinks, because of all the stickers and mattes in his fur, that he probably was rolling in the grass and took a stick to the eye.”

“He rolled in the grass? And. Poked. Out. His. Own. Eye?!” No way. Just, no way. I had a bit of a hysterical fit of laughter. She tells me he’ll have to have surgery and that they will keep him for the night and do the surgery first thing in the morning. Ok. I’m too stunned to think through the ramifications of that.

Then I get a message from my husband. They are keeping him. His oxygen levels are up and down and they can’t get a handle on what might be the problem. He’ll be spending the night at least.

I end my “Thursday from the enemy” at the hospital, spending the night with my husband in his room.

Friday morning, I find out my insurance is not what I thought and that I owe an astronomical amount to the wrecker service for the tow and the impound and all that. Not only that, but it has two flat tires. I’m not driving it anywhere. So, I set to work, while at work, on how to get the car back to my house. My first instinct is to get my church ladies praying but also to ask if anyone has a car hauler. In the middle of trying to figure out how to get the car, one friend asks if I mind if she shares it on Facebook. Sure, I say. Maybe someone will have a car hauler there and I will see what I can figure out about the finances while we wait on an answer. Unknown to me, that friend had posted that I needed help, financial and otherwise. Within half an hour, I had the funds to get the car out of impound, have it delivered to a tire shop, get 4 tires put on it, and get my dog out of the vet, with money to spare. I was overwhelmingly blessed and amazed. I was humbled. With all the crazy going on, money was the one thing I didn’t have to think about. God is so good! It was such a blessing to not worry about the money end of things. But I still had my husband in the hospital. And Z was having back spasms.

Saturday morning I went to get the car out of impound, have it towed to the tire shop, and get Jake out of the vet. Poor Jake. He looked worse than my car. Although, once it had tires on it and I needed to drive it home, it was very apparent there was much more wrong than met the eye. Still, I got it home. And went to work. I was thanking Jesus all day for the good that had come out of so much bad. I was able to come up with “Thank you Jesus” nearly every minute it seemed. When it was time to go home, my youngest, A, showed up. I told him I wanted to go see Dad as soon as I finished up, before we went home. To which he responded, “Well, Z is at the Vet ER with Sadie. We probably need to get him.”

“What?! Now what?”

“Sadie found Jake’s medicine on the counter, pulled it down, chewed through the bottle and ate 9 of the 10 pain pills he had. Z got one of the pills out of her mouth at home, but since she ate the other 8 we were worried. So Z said to take her to the vet ER.”

“You have to be kidding me.” We called Z. They had Sadie in the back, it might be a bit. So we run up to the hospital and see Dad, then head over to the vet ER to see how Sadie is doing. When we get there, Z is hanging out in the front, waiting on us and Sadie. I go to check her out and the story is that they induced vomiting and got 3 of the 8 pills out of her, but she had already ingested 5 of them. So they gave her a shot to counter act the pills she had ingested. Y’all. That dog was higher than a kite. Drunker than a skunk.

She comes out from the back and she is so HAPPY! That tail is going 90 miles an hour and its leading her rear end all over the place. But you can tell her head is having a hard time keeping up. She couldn’t walk a straight line to save her life. We manage to get her in the car, but she’s so happy she can’t sit still. We just sit in the car and we are dying laughing. The week has been crazy. We have a one-eyed Jake. We are down to one car. We have a suicidal, drunk dog. We have 1,000 things to be thankful for. But, right then, it was just funny. I said, “If we can keep Rascal safe, we’ll be okay. One dog left. Let’s keep him safe.” Z starts laughing harder. I’m just looking at him.

“2 out of 3 dogs. 2 out of 3 cars. Mom.”

A practically yells “That’s not a good percentage!”

“What are you talking about?”

“2/3 is 66.6%! That’s just the devil!”

We all roar with laughter then. I think part of it was that we were just punch drunk and oversensitive. But part of it was funny too. No matter what was intended, it was all taken care of. That “money to spare” I talked about earlier? It covered Sadie’s ER vet bill. It also covered 3 months of oxygen service for my husband when he was finally released from the hospital the following Wednesday.

We are in the middle of a study at our church called Daring Faith. The memory verse for the lesson the following week after these events was Romans 8:28. “But we know that all things work to the good for those that love Him and who are called according to His purpose.” I know I’m called according to His purpose. Even if the purpose is just to love others with His love. And I KNOW I love Him. So all these things that the enemy meant for evil, were made ok. I don’t know why. I don’t have to know why. I only have to trust God. Trusting God is our lifeline. Well, and humor. Humor helps.